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May 12, 2008

What his first intimacy moves can tell you

Filed under: relationships — Tags: , , , , , — marley howards @ 7:46 am

So you’re getting cozy with each other and you’ve reached the point where you’re cozy in ALL areas.  You have let him into your place.  Now, what can you tell the morning after?  His actions during the early stages of getting it on can give you hints on his ability to be on a long-term passionate relationship.

1.  When you’re on foreplay, he asks if you feel good about what he’s doing.

Hint: His purpose is to please you.  Having sex with a guy who asks questions right away about what you like will get so much better over time and this just means he’s making it perfectly sure it does,

2.  He’s almost too tender when during kissing and oral action.

Hint: Nervousness is creeping inside him, big time.  It’s not that he lacks interest, it’s just that he’s being sweeter than sexier and wants to make you feel how a gentleman he is.

3.  He makes sudden, unguarded requests while you’re at it.

Hint: This signifies that he is comfortable enough with you to open up about his turn-ons.  Be careful though, if it’s too soon, it means that move is a big deal to him and you might have to do it everytime you’re in bed.

4.  He maintains eye contact with you during intercourse.

Hint: He’s so into you. When men locks their eyes on you during this heated moment, he longs for a connection that is beyond physical.

Some of these assumptions are based from actual studies.  And it might just be helpful if we can read their actions when we are, let’s say, sane.  🙂  At the end of the day, what matters is what we feel while doing it. If we’re not comfortable and we feel pain, as in big time pain, then we can say no and our partners must respect that.


March 17, 2008

5 ways to bring back that lovin’ feeling in the bedroom

Filed under: 746, incompatibility — Tags: , , , , — marley howards @ 8:34 am

In this time and age where everyone is busy, where everyone is focused on work, and everyone just goes to the bedroom to ONLY sleep, how can you bring back that lovin’ feeling you and you partner shared during the first time you were together?

5 ways to bring back that lovin’ feeling in the bedroom

I’m not a relationship guru nor do I have a degree in counseling, but the ways I’ve come up are tried and tested by friends and by yours truly and they proved to be pretty powerful and pratical and does make sense.

1. For the guys, increase housework duties.

This was based on a latest study where the men who do more household chores end up getting more time in bed with the wife. It’s like a reward for all the hardwork you’ve done all day while the wife is in the office. That is if you’re one of those stay-at-home husbands. Or even, if you’re not, so some extra household chores over your rest days and these will be definitely appreciated.

2. List down what makes you happy.

Exchanging notes will be a better way than to actually talk about what you do in the bedroom. Also, list down what you want them to do, like do you want a more catchy intimate clothing, or you want them to brush their teeth first. Seems like people have a hard time making themselves understood by talking about intimacy and just  end up fighting.

3. Unleash the “vixen” in you.

It is known among long-time couples that there IS a time that the intensity dries out. So, if you’re in this phase, maybe you can bring back the romance by taking striptease classes, pole dancing or make room in your closet for those new Victoria’s Secret intimates.

4. Spring clean your overall appearance.

Your partner will ALWAYS appreciate how you look but WILL NOT ALWAYS find you sexually attractive.

5. Reminisce the old days.

Go to the place where you had your first kiss or to the place where you met. A little journey down the romantic memory lane will surely bring back the feeling of wanting to be close.

There are still many effective ways to heat things up in the bedroom and it all depends on your imagination. Only you and your partner know each other better so the best way is to be sensible to each other’s needs and let the love flow.

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