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May 17, 2008

Reasons why women may prefer less attractive men

Filed under: relationships — Tags: , , , — marley howards @ 3:40 am

A recent research published by the Journal of Family Psychology found that women are happier with, let’s just say, less than attractive men. I daresay I can attest to this as some of my friends who have made less-than-expected choices in their husbands are contented and happier and the divorce rate versus my friends who married drop-dead gourgeous men is lower.

More or less than 80 couples who had been married for almost a year were the subjects of the research and it concluded that women are happier with their less than attractive husbands. So, I think there is a flaw in the research, maybe couple who have been married for years should have been also a part of it. But then, I am not married,yet, so I won’t take that further.

So, I asked my friends on why are happier with their husbands who turned to be the opposite of what they dreamed of when we were in highschool.

1. There are less insecurity issues

When you have a husband that is not the head-turner type, a woman tends to have less insecurities about how she looks or how presents herself. In short, jealousy is virtually out of the picture.

2. Women experience more humor in the relationship

It seems that less attractive men tend to makeup for their lack of physical appeal by maximizing their sense of humor. Laughter and a more intact common sense are more preferred than toned muscles or six-pack abs.

3. Women are treated on a pedestal more because the men feel empowered because they were accepted for who are they are and how they look like.

These maybe true, but my overall point is, we should not base how a marriage works solely on physical attributes. Men, jaw-dropping or not, can make any relationship work. And a relationship is not a one-man show, it requires the two people to make it work. Also, everyone has an angle or an attribute that can be considered attractive. And if love is present, looks don’t really matter. In a society where we are somehat dictated who is beautiful or not, what should matter is the inner glow.

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March 17, 2008

5 ways to bring back that lovin’ feeling in the bedroom

Filed under: 746, incompatibility — Tags: , , , , — marley howards @ 8:34 am

In this time and age where everyone is busy, where everyone is focused on work, and everyone just goes to the bedroom to ONLY sleep, how can you bring back that lovin’ feeling you and you partner shared during the first time you were together?

5 ways to bring back that lovin’ feeling in the bedroom

I’m not a relationship guru nor do I have a degree in counseling, but the ways I’ve come up are tried and tested by friends and by yours truly and they proved to be pretty powerful and pratical and does make sense.

1. For the guys, increase housework duties.

This was based on a latest study where the men who do more household chores end up getting more time in bed with the wife. It’s like a reward for all the hardwork you’ve done all day while the wife is in the office. That is if you’re one of those stay-at-home husbands. Or even, if you’re not, so some extra household chores over your rest days and these will be definitely appreciated.

2. List down what makes you happy.

Exchanging notes will be a better way than to actually talk about what you do in the bedroom. Also, list down what you want them to do, like do you want a more catchy intimate clothing, or you want them to brush their teeth first. Seems like people have a hard time making themselves understood by talking about intimacy and just  end up fighting.

3. Unleash the “vixen” in you.

It is known among long-time couples that there IS a time that the intensity dries out. So, if you’re in this phase, maybe you can bring back the romance by taking striptease classes, pole dancing or make room in your closet for those new Victoria’s Secret intimates.

4. Spring clean your overall appearance.

Your partner will ALWAYS appreciate how you look but WILL NOT ALWAYS find you sexually attractive.

5. Reminisce the old days.

Go to the place where you had your first kiss or to the place where you met. A little journey down the romantic memory lane will surely bring back the feeling of wanting to be close.

There are still many effective ways to heat things up in the bedroom and it all depends on your imagination. Only you and your partner know each other better so the best way is to be sensible to each other’s needs and let the love flow.

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